What’s Stopping You?

“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”

Eleanor Roosevelt

I’ve shared the story recently of how I decided to build this community for women in the Great Lakes Bay region. It was an important moment that changed my life. It all started on my couch and came from my personal need for connection and friendship with other women. I had no idea ‘how’ I would do it, and I’m still not sure I have it allfigured out. I do know that I am following my heart and my calling, so I made a plan, and I’m doing it! It has been a wonderful ride so far! Maybe you have a similar dream or another idea that is really tugging at your heart. May I ask, what is stopping you from acting on your dream?

Starting this adventure is one of the first things in my adult life that I am SURE I am supposed to be doing… besides marrying my husband of course. He was definitely a sure thing. I know you probably know that feeling too, though. That feeling or the voice inside our head we all hear when we get ready to start something new. You know, the voice inside that says “I don’t know about this, are you sure?” Yes – THAT one. I can’t tell you how many times I have had that voice creep in and stop me from moving forward with a dream or idea that I’ve had. Sometimes, that voice is called ‘conscience,’ and it protects us. Sometimes that voice is called ‘doubt’ or ‘fear’ and it paralyzes us.

When you think of your dreams and goals, do you think that they are attainable? Why? Why not? Have you realized that most of the time, it isn’t that you can’t accomplish those dreams or goals, it is usually the ‘HOW’ that trips you up? We don’t knowhowwe can do it, so we let the doubt kick in and the fear control us… and then we give up. That negative voice is speaking too loudly again, so we move on and we pass up that dream for something else – something easier. Maybe we even use the excuse that it “wasn’t the right time” or “it wasn’t meant to be.” Don’t tell me you haven’t spoken those words to yourself. We ALL have. I am guilty as charged, too.

It took two solid years of working on my mindset, spending time with the right people and transforming myself, inside and out, before I had enough confidence to build this community. It took tears, energy, resources, and ultimately, prayer. Lots and lots of prayer. It took being at my wits end wondering what I could personally do to connect with more women and create quality relationships and friendships. I also had to turn down that negative voice repeatedly and remind myself of what I am capable of. If it hadn’t been for the health community that supported me in becoming the best version of myself, I would not be writing this and ‘Fill Up Your Cup’ would not exist.

Some say that you become like the 5 people you spend the majority of your time with. I believe that to be true. I never felt called to help people on such an intimate level, in their health and personal lives, until my mentors did that for me. I didn’t know how to be as positive or believe in myself as much as I do now, until they believed in me first, and then I started achieving my goals, one at a time. So, I ask – who are you surrounding yourself with? Positive people who speak life and kindness into you, or negative people who bring drama and discontentment into your world?

Friends, be willing to examine your current reality and determine what your goals and dreams are. To quote Katherine Paterson, “A dream without a plan is just a wish.” If you want to see dreams come to fruition, create an actionplan. Surround yourself with people who believe in you and your dreams, and speak kindly to yourself. The things you say to yourself are what you will begin to believe are true if you say them enough. Make it positive! Shut down that negative voice when it tries to creep in. You are only one decision away from a different life. You just need to be willing to say yes, move past fear and get to work. It isn’t a one-day commitment that you will be making to reach big goals. Many days, weeks, months, and maybe even years will be spent working toward them, depending on the goal, but don’t let that stop you. I promise you, the time will pass anyway.