It’s been over two months since I decided to take the leap and launch my own monthly social gathering for local women. It’s been such an incredible journey for me so far. I still cannot believe it is coming to life, a little more each and every day.
It started with feeling a strong personal need for community and social interaction, somewhere in my city. You might be wondering, “Why would she want to do that? That’s what social media is for and it’s easy!” Let me tell you… I asked myself the very same question at first, but I quickly realized that it just wasn’t cutting it. I had been through a difficult personal health journey, IVF, miscarriages, and leaving my mainstream healthcare job to come home and work full-time as a health and wellness coach. My friends had babies and I didn’t. We moved in different directions. I felt very alone through all of it.
On December 19th, 2018, I sat on my couch and cried. I had placed all of my efforts into being an entrepreneur and I had a flexible schedule. I had a great income. I could even be described by some as ‘successful,’ I guess. I cried not because of the ability to work from home and the perks (all of that is awesome). I cried because I didn’t feel like I was bonding with anyone sitting behind a screen, day in and day out. I didn’t feel a genuine connection with anyone and I sure didn’t feel like I was making any lasting friends via social media.
In that moment on the couch, I started thinking and then praying for some direction. Then, I stared down at my new Alex & Ani coffee charm bracelet. That was THE moment. I know you’re probably thinking, “Really? THAT was the BIG moment? Yep. It was. In the midst of my tears and prayers, I was led to creating Fill Up Your Cup.
Looking at that little coffee cup charm reminded me of all the good conversations, dream sessions, and laughs that have happened over coffee in the last few years. Coffee is one of my favorite things and I spend a lot of time in the local coffee shops enjoying the sense of community and belonging that seems to happen there.
I knew I couldn’t be the only one who felt like I was struggling to make real friends in my thirties, so I decided to take a chance and put myself out there, for all to see. I started asking other women to join me for coffee and conversation. Some of them I knew personally, some I didn’t. It was a scary feeling at times to wonder if I’d be rejected or laughed at, but I felt called to this assignment, and I was willing to take the risk.
In less than 30 days, I had over 100 women join the private Facebook community. I had so many positive messages and conversations with women who were thrilled that something like this monthly social gathering was being offered to them. It may not seem like much to some people, but to me, it meant the world. I love to give and serve and this filled my heart with so much joy and gratitude!
Despite Mother Nature’s decision to bring some major winter weather on the day of our first gathering, we made it happen! It doesn’t matter that the roads were terrible and only 10 people could make it or that I had never done this before. It doesn’t matter that it wasn’t ‘perfect.’ What matters is that IT HAPPENED.
No matter the weather or my inexperience, it was so fulfilling to see women showing up. It felt so amazing to know that they trusted in me to create a safe space of belonging; and to see them come together in conversation and sharing laughter with each other in a matter of minutes. It was perfectly imperfect and everything I could ask for.
Fill Up Your Cup is coming to life, and it is made of beautiful women who are unique and amazing in every way, from all walks of life. Entrepreneurs, moms, wives, creators, warriors, you name it. We can ALL support, empower, and encourage one another, one connection and one gathering at a time. We are all more alike than we are different and this community is proof.
I believe I was assigned this mountain, to show others it can be moved. I didn’t know the ‘how,’ for getting it done, but I had a desire to fulfill the ‘why’ and I’m learning along the way. Building community and relationships makes my heart beat. I feel so honored to have the opportunity to share this with other women who value that too.